When cancer treatment forces you to miss your child’s school activities, performances, or family traditions, I know it can feel heartbreaking. Every time I missed a special moment with my kids during treatment, it felt like cancer was stealing more than my health. I later realised that every missed moment was another reminder of what cancer couldn’t steal — the love that held us close.
This guide offers practical, psychology-based strategies to help you cope and stay connected.
Acknowledge the Loss
Give yourself permission to feel sad, frustrated, or disappointed. Saying ‘I wish I could have been there, and it hurts that I couldn’t’ validates your experience and models emotional honesty for your child.
Find Creative Ways to Stay Involved
Ask someone to record the event, send a good-luck note, or plan a post-event ritual to celebrate together.
Reframe What ‘Being There’ Means
Children value connection more than physical presence. Remind them that even when you can’t attend, you are cheering them on in your heart.
Managing Guilt and Pressure
Guilt often whispers that you’re letting your child down. Remember, cancer is not a choice. Small, meaningful moments of presence matter most.
Building a Flexible Family Routine
Simplify daily life with predictable rituals, involve kids in planning family time, and let go of non-essentials to save energy for what matters most.
Caring for Yourself Too
Protecting your mental and physical health is one of the best gifts you can give your children. Rest, ask for help, and set boundaries to sustain connection.